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“Peaceful Passion” – a new way of lovemaking!

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“Peaceful Passion” – a new way of lovemaking!

Peaceful Passion? That sounds like two different things, doesn’t it? Passion is hot, sexy and full of fire. Peace is soft and graceful. Peaceful Passion is a union of opposites, a lovemaking that blends body, heart and spirit into an experience of infinite delight. And every couple can enjoy it, regardless of age or sexual appetite.

Peaceful Passion is a unique way to enjoy sexual connection with your partner. What is wonderful about this easy approach is that NOTHING is required. It’s easy! You don’t even have to be “in the mood.” (But you can be.) You can make an appointment. You don’t have to be aroused. (But you can be!) No effort is involved. No one has to work, or “do” their partner. There is no goal except to be in the “now” with your Beloved. You can even enjoy Peaceful Passion without an erection! (There’s an ancient saying: in soft, out hard!)

What? Isn’t lovemaking supposed to be filled with vigorous activity, stimulation, tension and release? Isn’t the purpose of sex to achieve the release of climax? Aren’t bigger, better and more frequent orgasms the goal?

In Peaceful Passion, sexual union creates intimacy. Intimacy, closeness, a sense of belonging. A sense of being seen (intimacy = in-to-me-see), being acknowledged, being present, one soul with another. At the same time, Peaceful Passion gives a delicious and juicy charge to our batteries!

Sexual union through Peaceful Passion enhances and celebrates an experience of deep love. Many people think that sex is the way to become intimate with your partner, but others want to feel intimately connected BEFORE engaging in sexual contact! This difference of thought often results in a misalignment of timing and intention. Peaceful Passion, providing both emotional AND sexual connection, is a worth-trying solution to this age-old relationship impasse.

When you share one another’s energy through Peaceful Passion, you create balance and a high level of alignment and purpose in your relationship. Even 10 minutes of Peaceful Passion can open you to an exciting flow of vitality that lasts all day.

In Peaceful Passion there is no need for traditional “foreplay” prior to genital connection. Are you ready to expand your understanding of orgasm to include a relaxed yet energizing expansive experience rather than an intensely focused lower chakra contraction/release? “Chakras” are spiritual energy centers along the spine that directly affect our health and happiness. Yoga and Tantra Tai Chi help awaken these chakras through easy movements. The potential for deep sexual satisfaction is greatest when both people are relaxed, conscious and aware, the keys to Peaceful Passion.

At Intimacy Retreats, we have been teaching couples the “how” of Peaceful Passion for many years, while continuing to learn more about the “why.” Why Peaceful Passion works, why it heightens the experience of joyous intimacy, why it’s great for your relationship.

One reason is that Peaceful Passion – like the movements of Tantra Tai Chi itself – encourages a circulation of energy through the chakras. Eye contact, allowing your Beloved to see into your eyes, helps bring that energy flow up through the heart. When sex and heart energy are integrated, a spiritual connection automatically follows. This connection with the Source of your life-force can easily shift your experience into a transcendent, ecstatic state. (Once you experience it for yourself, you’ll find your own descriptive words!)

There is also another reason why Peaceful Passion is so powerful. This reason is more scientific and has to do with the biochemical substances our bodies produce during arousal and climax. For example, whenever we connect intimately, there is an increase of “oxytocin,” a delightful hormone that directs us to enjoy bonding with the person who is touching us.

Climax and ejaculation produce an overload of “dopamine,” which we experience as a rush similar to adrenaline. (Dopamine is also responsible for the charge delivered by caffeine, drugs, high-energy sports and other potentially addictive activities.) Unfortunately, after the rush there is an inevitable crash as dopamine levels – and interest in our partner – drop quickly and abruptly. This dropoff of dopamine results an upsurge of a hormone called “prolactin”which cancause us, among other symptoms, to actually withdraw from intimacy! How about that? Instead of being rewarded with greater feelings of closeness, what has been considered the ultimate act of making love can end up literally pushing us away from each other.

The Peaceful Passion approach to lovemaking may be revolutionary but it isn’t really new. The writings of ancient sages of various cultures and traditions encourage and guide us to explore the possibilities of loving without the goal of climax or ejaculation. And now there is neurobiological evidence that further supports our commitment to practicing Tantra Tai Chi and Peaceful Passion, and sharing this information with you!

We look forward to any questions you may have about how to add Peaceful Passion to your sexual menu, as you transform your relationship into a Love Affair!!

ALSO SEE CHAPTER 3 IN OUR BOOK!

Note: At an Intimacy Retreat, you always return to your private rooms for sexual practices. Click here for workshop calendar.

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Diana Daffner

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