Siesta Key Intimacy Retreats

Coaching in Tantra and the Art of Intimate Relationship

Attend an Intimacy Retreat and nourish your most important relationship with love, connection and delight.

Couples of all ages attend and enjoy Intimacy Retreats. Typically, their relationship is relatively good, committed and loving. There may or may not be some sexual concerns or other typical relationship challenges. One or both partners may be interested in Tantra, or just want a weekend away from the kids, or hope to deepen their intimate connection, enhance or reignite their love life, or just have a fun vacation together.

It's time to reach new heights of ecstasy and renew your love.



+ deepen their sexual and emotional connection
+ take their relationship to the next level
+ improve romance, intimacy, trust & communication
+ learn about Tantra and tantric sex.

Although we do not provide “therapy” at the workshop, couples who have been struggling with intimacy and/or sexual issues in their relationship have often found extraordinary healing through the practices at the Intimacy Retreat.


+ create quality time with your beloved
+ communicate more effectively – both in & out of the bedroom
+ deepen passion & enhance lovemaking skills
+ develop trust
+ give and receive unconditionally
+ blend sexual & heart energy for maximum orgasmic bliss
+ realize your spiritual oneness
+ have fun!


Energize and synchronize your sexual, heart and spiritual centers. Practices are drawn from the teachings of Tantra, t’ai chi, aikido, massage, Reiki energy healing, meditation and other body/mind arts of touch, movement and communication. Ancient knowledge is blended with modern understandings of relationship psychology to create a powerful learning environment for couples at all stages of life. Playfulness, laughter and vacation fun are also part of the package!

To personalize the principles learned during group sessions, you return to your private accommodations for erotic “homeplay assignments,” always a favorite part of the workshop. (There is no public sexual activity.)

Easy-to-do rituals and ceremonies help you move from your everyday world into a new dimension of shared sacred awareness. Throughout the retreat, you are encouraged to maintain this perspective as you journey together into a deepening of love and intimacy. By learning to be more “present” with each other, you become aware of your own energy and how to direct it. As Dr. Vicotoria Lee writes in Soulful Sex, “each moment in which you are conscious of the sacred sexual energy that runs through your veins becomes one in which you experience the divine.”

Both new and ancient understandings of sexual attitude, anatomy, techniques, positions and orgasm are presented.

When you experience deep intimacy with your beloved partner, your face glows and your heart sings. You feel connected in your soul. Attend an Intimacy Retreat and transform your relationship into the love affair you know it can be.



The Art of Sacred Sexuality

Tantra Tai Chi for Lovers

Easy Movements Create Instant Intimacy!

Loving Touch

Touching Into Wholeness and Joy

Yin-Yang Discoveries

Be Both a Giver and a Receiver

Sacred Ceremonies for Lovers

Inner Journeys to the Heart

Weekend Workshops begin at 7 pm on Friday, and conclude on Sunday afternoon. See schedule in FAQ below.

(Note: There is no nudity or public sexual activity.  Between group sessions you return to your rooms for private “homeplay” practices.)

The workshop fee for weekend Intimacy Retreats is

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All workshops have limited enrollment.

Where is Siesta Key?

On the west coast of Florida, one hour south of Tampa and two hours north of Naples, Siesta Key has been named the #1 USA beach, with beautiful white sand and glorious sunsets over the Gulf of Mexico!

Shop in boutiques and enjoy restaurants in the romantic resort beach setting of Siesta Village. Siesta Key is an eight-mile tropical barrier island off the coast of SARASOTA, FL, on the Gulf of Mexico, graced by one of the world's most beautiful white sand sunset beaches. The sand, a fine white powder that is 99% quartz crystal, always stays cool under your feet even when the sun is at its peak! It is said that Siesta Beach sand has magical healing powers - so be sure to take a barefoot walk! A popular ``laid-back`` vacation destination, there are no golf courses or big hotels on our island.

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Got Questions? Read our FAQ's

Who attends an Intimacy Retreat?

Couples of all ages attend and enjoy Intimacy Retreats. Typically, their relationship is relatively good, committed and loving. There may or may not be some sexual concerns or other typical relationship challenges. One or both partners may be interested in Tantra, or just want a weekend away from the kids, or hope to deepen their intimate connection, enhance or reignite their love life, or just have a fun vacation together. If you are not sure if an Intimacy Retreat is a good idea at this time, please feel free to contact us. We will be happy to discuss your participation in more depth. Private retreats or coaching sessions are also available.

Is there public nudity?

There is NEVER any public sexual activity at an Intimacy Retreat. You always return to your private lodging for delightful and sexually intimate “home-play” assignments! Also, there is never any nudity unless the Intimacy Retreat is held at a clothing-optional resort, which will always be noted up-front in the schedule. Even at these resorts, nudity is never required in the workshop space.

How do we register?

See registration information or call 941 349-6804 (Florida). You can register online or by phone. For most weekend workshops, the fee is $695/couple.

What accommodations are available for lodging and how do we make arrangements?

Lodging is usually not included in the workshop fee. For Siesta Key, you make your own arrangements, selecting from a list of suggestions that we provide. In some cases, special rates apply for Intimacy Retreat participants, and we are always available to help with your selection. (See Lodging.) For COSTA RICA, click here.

Are any meals included?

Unless noted otherwise, meals are not included in the Intimacy Retreat fee. At the Costa Rica Retreat, meals are included in the lodging fee.

What is the schedule during a retreat?

At all Intimacy Retreats, between group sessions, you return to your room for ‘homeplay” assignments!
Typical Weekend Intimacy Retreat Schedule*:

  • Friday: 7:00 pm – 9:45 pm
  • Saturday: 10 am – 4 pm (with a lunch break)
  • Saturday: 8:30 pm – 10:45 pm
  • Sunday: 11 am – 1:45 pm

There is also time for relaxation and vacation activities. And you might also consider staying an extra day! (On Siesta Key, at sunset on Sundays, there is a dynamic “drum & dance” on the beach! If your schedule permits, staying for this event is a rewarding experience!)

Can singles or same-sex couples attend?

+ Singles?
Intimacy Retreats are for couples only. However, there are talks and book signings and occasional seminars that do not require a partner. If you are on our newsletter list you will be notified of all events.

+ Same-Sex Couples?
Although we (Richard & Diana Daffner) designed the workshops based on our own man-woman relationship, same-sex partners are welcome. Both male and female sexuality are addressed. NOTE: Diana has led an Intimacy Retreat for lesbian couples and will likely do so again. Please contact her if you might be interested.

Do you teach massage?

Erotic massage is taught at workshops and couples return to their private rooms to practice. Sensual massage lessons are given by Diana Daffner as a separate and wonderful couple experience! Diana began teaching massage while she was on the Esalen Massage Staff in Big Sur, CA. The fee for Couples Massage training is $280/couple for a 2 1/2 hour experience including private outdoor hot tub (optional). Consider adding this to your Intimacy Retreat on Siesta Key. Reiki treatments and attunements are also available. Retreats longer than a weekend, and private retreats, often include massage training.

Will you offer an Intimacy Retreat in our area?

If you can organize a group of 4 or more couples who would like to experience this type of weekend, please contact us regarding sponsoring an Intimacy Retreat in your area.

How will I know when other dates & locations are added?

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What if we have a question that hasn't been answered?

Call Diana and Richard Daffner in Florida at 941 349-6804 (Florida), 9am-9pm EST. Or send an email.

Workshop Programs led by Richard and Diana Daffner, C.S., M.A.
Teachers of Tantra, Tai Chi, Massage, Reiki, Meditation and More

The Lover Asked…How would you like me to touch you?
“I would like you to touch me as if your hand were a
feather, lightly caressing the edge of my being.”

–Diana Daffner,  from The Lover’s Touch