Transform your relationship into a Love Affair!
This is a simple ceremony that can be done at any time on Thanksgiving. Before the relatives arrive, while they are there, or after they leave! It can be a heart-warming prelude to physical intimacy. Or this ceremony is also powerful performed as a stolen kiss, a few quick moments while the guests are busy elsewhere!
It may be helpful if both of you read these directions, but one of you can read it and explain to the other. (It’s really quite simple.)
What follows is a list of gratitude statements. Print them out or copy them. Cut the paper into strips, with each of the gratitude statements on separate pieces of paper. Fold the pieces of paper and place them in a pretty bowl or on a small silk cloth. Also have ready an empty bowl or another small cloth.
When you are ready for the ceremony, bring yourselves and the bowls to a private room. If you have time, create a ceremonial atmosphere by lighting a candle and, if you like, some incense. Play soft, relaxing music. Flowers are nice. However, if you are stealing a moment in the midst of a busy day of guests, simply close the door to be alone.
Stand (or sit) facing each other. Relax and become aware of your breathing. Turn your bodies and faces toward each other and make eye contact. Silently muse on the fact that this person looking into your eyes right now is your lover, perhaps your spouse, your partner, perhaps the mother or father of your children. Perhaps you are new lovers. Regardless of any conflicts that may currently exist, you know that you love each other. Or you are exploring love.
You are ready to share and celebrate the truth and potential of love.
As you continue to silently gaze into each other’s eyes, take at least two or three deep breaths. Then, one of you picks up a folded piece of paper. Look at the paper, and read the statement silently. Then, looking into your Beloved’s eyes, say the statement aloud to him or her.
Your partner responds by reaching out to take your hands, saying: I love you.
Continuing eye contact and handholding, after taking a relaxing breath, your partner repeats the same gratitude statement back to you. You respond: I love you.
After another breath or two, you separate, each of you placing your own hands palms together (prayer position) and holding them in front of your own heart center (center of your chest area). Continuing eye contact, you bow slightly to each other!
Bowing this way honors the godself in one another, the heart of who we are.
Place the paper in the empty bowl. The second person then takes a new gratitude statement and the same procedure is followed. Feel free to change the words or add your own. Be open to feelings of love and tenderness.
By participating in ceremony, you are creating a powerful field of intentional energy. Become aware of this larger space that the two of you share. This is an expanded dimension, a place where love exists without struggle.
You can do this ceremony using only one or two statements, or you can do all of the statements at one time. If you spend only one minute each day in ceremonial gratitude, your lives – and your love life – will change forever.
Please let us know if you perform this ceremony and how it affects you. You do not have to limit it to Thanksgiving Day!! Thank you.
See also.. Gratitude in Relationship
Statements of Gratitude
Thank you for being in my life.
Thank you for looking into my eyes.
Thank you for being here with me right now.
Thank you for being present.
Thank you for everything you do for me.
Thank you for warming my heart.
Thank you for allowing me to love you.
Thank you for hearing me.
Thank you for sharing this moment.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you for allowing me to be me.
Thank you for growing with me.
Thank you for seeing me.
Thank you for touching me.
Thank you for showing up.